You Can Be Strong and Still Be Struggling

We’ve been taught that strength looks like composure. Bottling it up. Always be ready to give an answer. But real strength? It’s not about being untouched by life. It’s about being real in the midst of it.

Sometimes the people who seem the most resilient are the ones barely hanging on. They show up. They smile. They push through.

But inside, they’re stretched. Tired. Need time to regroup, or simply someone to say, “I've got you.”

What if strength isn’t about holding it all together, but being honest about what you’re carrying?

We forget that it’s possible to be capable and overwhelmed. Grateful and grieving. Determined and discouraged.

These aren’t contradictions. They’re human experiences.

The most resilient people I know are the ones willing to check in with themselves and ask: “Where am I pretending I’m fine?” And then brave enough to answer it honestly.

That’s the kind of strength that doesn’t just help us survive; it helps us connect, heal, and move forward with intention.

"Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit you're not okay." - Unknown

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Barbara Gustavson is a speaker, brain health advocate, and leadership facilitator and guides professionals to lead with clarity, purpose, and resilience. As founder of Discover Next Step and Head Facilitator for Dr. Daniel Amen’s brain health certification programs, she blends neuroscience, personal growth, and leadership strategies to create lasting impact. Barbara is the author of Permission to be BOLD, co-author of Breaking Average, and is currently pursuing her Master’s in Psychology. Her talks are both practical and personal, offering simple yet powerful tools to help audiences handle stress differently and lead without burning out.